It is always easy to become overwhelmed by the stresses of modern life. It’s hard to know what you should be doing and how to do it. How do you make the right decisions, plan ahead, and cope when faced with challenges? Here are some tips to help you stay on top of everything.
Make a list of your priorities. Write down your values and the things that matter to you. What are your goals in life? What do you want to achieve? For example, a person with a goal of ‘to be happy’ may set themselves targets such as ‘to earn more money’ and ‘to get on better at work’. Setting goals will help keep you focused and give you a sense of achievement.
Think about the big picture.
The small things often seem like a chore or an annoyance, but they can be an important part of your life. For example, if you are a parent, your life often revolves around your child, including being up early in the morning or staying late at night to meet their needs. You may feel exhausted, but remember that this is your job. If your horrid parent is doing things that annoy you, try to think about what it would mean to them if they had to do all the things that you do. It may not be easy, but it will make things clearer.
Take a break.
If you find yourself getting overwhelmed by the demands of life, try to take a break. If you can, schedule a time of relaxation and recharge for every day. This could be as simple as taking a walk in the park, reading in bed or listening to music. If you don’t have time for a break, then at least make time for yourself. Make sure you get enough sleep, eat healthily, exercise, spend time with your friends and family and think about how you want to improve your life.
Don’t get stuck in a rut.
It’s important to keep on top of things, but at times it can be difficult to know what to do. If you find yourself feeling bored or stuck, don’t give up – instead, think about what you would like to change in your life and set yourself new goals. Try setting a timer for yourself if it helps. You may feel that you are only able to take on so much at once, but try to do a little bit each day.
Make a plan.
Before you begin an activity, always make sure that you know exactly where you are going. This will help you stay focused and avoid getting lost in the many demands of modern life. Before you leave the house, check the weather forecast and make sure you have enough food and water. Before you go to bed, think about what you will do the next day and what you need to pack.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
If you find yourself struggling, ask for support. It is normal to feel worried and stressed, but don’t keep these feelings inside. If you don’t tell someone how you feel, you might become too overwhelmed and depressed. Talk with your family, friends or partner. They may not know what to say, but they can listen and offer you reassurance and advice. You may find it helpful to set yourself small goals and stick to them – for example, you can say ‘I am going to read a book every day for one hour’.
When things go wrong, it can be hard to see a silver lining. You may worry about the future and feel that you are on a downward spiral. Try to look on the bright side of life and remind yourself that you have many good things in your life. For example, if you have a job, you have money to spend and you have friends and family around you. If you are stressed, then try to think of ways to relax. Do something you enjoy, such as listening to music, watching a film or having a long bath. If you feel tired, rest and try to get a good night’s sleep.
Think about other people.
Life can be very selfish and we tend to think only about ourselves. However, it is important to think about others, too. When you make the decision to change your life for the better, it is important to consider the needs of those around you. You may not always like what you hear, but you should consider what they would want from you and if you are thinking about them, your horrid parent may begin to feel less important.
You may find it helpful to share your goals with someone who cares about you and who you trust. It will help you if you can find someone to talk to, because then you will know that you aren’t the only one struggling to keep on top of things.
Keep in touch.
Having a friend or family member to share your thoughts with will help you stay on top of everything. This person can offer you support, advice and encouragement and will be able to understand when you feel down or overwhelmed. In return, you can listen to them and help them with their problems, whether it is sorting out a problem at work or coping with a relationship break up.
When you feel stressed, tired or confused, try taking a break and relaxing. A good way to do this is to go for a walk.